I See You: Self-Confidence Pick Me Up

There are a lot of people who don't believe me when I say, "I used to be unconfident...& some days, I still am." I believe because I'm so optimistic, happy & constantly talking about the beautifulness of the world that many hear/see that & just think I have it all together. But, the truth is, I'm still human, & I still have days when I don't feel that confident....or have it "all together." (Who really has it all together?)

Confidence, in my opinion, is something that's taught. If you're fortunate, you have parents, mentors and/or teachers who instill this at a young age & constantly reinforce it throughout your life. (shoutout to Meech, Esco, & all the humans who loved me hard & reminded me of my worth often.) When you are surrounded by the words that you are worthy & that you have everything you need to be the best, you start believing in yourself. You start accepting your worth for what it is, & you begin to shine from the inside out with confidence.

With life being on social media all of the time, we do this thing where we only post our highlight reel. It's us, but at the same time, it's a portrayal of the version of us that we want others to see. I know for me, I sometimes stare at a photo for long periods of time trying to decide if it's "worthy enough" to be on my page...as if every photo of me isn't beautiful in it's own right. & it's draining, to tell you the truth. Finding "post worthy" photos, taking the time to come up with the "perfect caption," caring about the amount of "likes" we get--all of it is tiresome, & we begin to lose sight of our real selves.

Which is why, in my opinion, it's so important to remind ourselves of our worth, to constantly fill our cups up with positive affirmations, & to simply just say, "I see you. I see you, & you are doing great."

Five Things You Can Do to Boost Your Self-Confidence

1. Start each day naming at least three things you love about yourself.

It sounds silly, maybe...it's definitely redundant because I'm always saying to start your day by naming something...but when you start your day by loving yourself & the you that you are, you tend to carry that belief with you throughout the day. It makes it harder to wave your energy when negativity gets thrown at you because you're filled with positivity.

2. Speak things into existence...positive things.

I say this so often too, but if you want it, speak it into the air & allow it to manifest. There is so much power in your words. Your thoughts become your reality. Speak about the great things you want. Allow them to circulate into the universe. When you allow your negative thoughts to take over, you often times experience the negative consequences of it all. Change your thoughts.

3. STOP comparing.

This goes back to seeing only the highlight reel. We're all human. We all have shortcomings. We all have hardships. But many...most...will never allow anyone to see it. How can you compare your downfalls to someone's success? We only ever know the parts of lives that others share. If you're going to compare yourself to someone, compare her to the you of yesterday. How have you bettered yourself?

4. Dress for the career you want tomorrow, not for the job that you have today.

Basically, dress for success. If you believe that you are worth a million and one dollars, then dress that way. I'm not saying to spend tons of money to look a certain way. I'm saying that when you are confident in yourself & feel confident in the clothes that you're wearing, many are drawn to you. You're projecting yourself in a certain light that will draw people to you.

5. Daily Reminders/Positive Affirmations.

Days are long & often busy. We run into obstacles & things that test us or our patience. We deal with rude humans, unhappy humans, humans who throw us for a curveball. It's crucial we take a step back, breathe for a second, & remind ourselves of how amazing we are. No one else is going to refill our glass for us. We must fill it on our own.

I never believe that I have all the answers. But, I do always believe that if I do certain things that help me daily & I can share them with others, I should. It may just save a soul.

Self-confidence is not believing you are perfect. It's knowing you're perfectly imperfect & shining in your own.

You got this. I see you. & you're doing great.

May your day be ever filled with love, light, and of course, an abundance of chicken tenders💜🌻✨

Cheyenne Pajardo